I am glad you shared your stories. I can resonate with them. When I created my profile here, I did wonder if I should say I am a Malaysian or a Chinese Malaysian. If you ever live in Malaysia, racist remarks are thrown at each other daily. It makes me feel stupid sometimes. And I feel annoyed as well when hiring is based on colour. I have been in HR for the last 9 years and I have had a lot of these conversations. It's so tiring. Thank you for writing this. It brings different perspective. Sometimes it has nothing to do with race but instead about manners.